THE POWER & CONTROL WHEEL
Look at the Power and Control Wheels created by the Survivors featured in Finding Our Voices both on this website and in the exhibit, and you will start to notice abusers are all basically the same; they differ only in how they carry out the various abusive tactics outlined on this Wheel.
If you have a boyfriend, partner, or husband who is abusing you, you will come to realize that he is not just "a jerk" sometimes. He is An Abuser. And he is not going to change.
This Wheel shows all the ways abusers terrorize their partners. Women tend to minimize the domestic abuse they suffer, thinking that if they do not have a black eye it is not domestic abuse. Yet mental and emotional cruelty from someone purporting to love you can be as - or even more - painful and damaging than physical abuse.
The Power and Control Wheel (aka The Duluth Model) was developed in 1984 by Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs